“It was easily one of the best dates I have taken my wife on all year and we experienced a closeness in the darkness that was rare in a public place.” - Marco Lam | Acupuncturist



April 12th - 14th 2016 | 6PM & 9PM |The Payne Mansion Hotel | San Francisco, CA

SF MOMENTARY & The Blind Cafe Present

"A Momentary Blind Cafe: A Relationship-deepening Dinner in the Dark Experience for Couples"

Facilitated by Dr. Michelle Wang, Founder of SF Momentary and Psychologist

Join SF Momentary and The Blind Cafe for our dinner in the dark series starting April 12 - 14th, 2016 ."A Momentary Blind Cafe: A Relationship-deepening Dinner in the Dark for Couples" will be popping up at The Payne Mansion Hotel, 1409 Sutter Street San Francisco, CA. You'll be in the pitch dark, without your cell phones, learning new ways to connect with your partner while enjoying food and wine! There will be space for only 20 couples per seating, two seatings per night. ( 6PM & 9PM ) and tickets will be $300 for each couple, which will include 2 glasses of wine, cheese, and the tasting menu for the evening (menu to be decided; vegetarian options available). The 2.5-hour long evening will consist of dinner in the dark, fun and playful exercises woven into the program designed by Dr. Michelle Wang to deepen the romantic relationship between couples, and live music to conclude the evening. 


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“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
— Brené Brown

Meet our Facilitators

Michelle Wang Psy D, founder and Psychologist of San Francisco's SF Momentary

I was born a lover of food. My first food experience as a baby was a tiny bite of spicy Kimchi - the ultimate test of being a Korean. In my family the theory was that though the chili burned my tender tongue and brought tears to my eyes, if I reached out for a second bite, it meant I had the resilience and fire to be part of the family. I passed the test and my mother’s eyes teared up with pride. In addition, I have no food allergies, I eat everything, and cuss appropriately, making me the perfect side-kick to Anthony Bourdain.

The idea of MOMENTARY came to me a year ago as I was going through some major life transitions both professionally and personally. Being curious by nature and made more so as a psychologist, I asked myself everyday, How do I find my place in the world? How can I cope with my emotional distress better? How can I find my footing in a city where everyone seems to be at the top of their game? Does everyone feel as lost as I am?

These intimate questions naturally became professional ones as well. How do psychologists reach out to the giant subset of people who don’t need or can’t afford therapy but can still benefit from grounding and mindfulness skills? Where do they go for that?

The answer for me personally became foolishly obvious. Food, of course. Breaking bread. Rituals. Gathering. Savoring. Nourishing. Food is the common denominator for all of us. We use it to forget, we use it to remember. It’s the least intimidating medium of connecting to ourselves and others. I began incorporating mindful eating and other self-awareness exercises related to food into my personal and professional work with clients and saw remarkable results. I would love to share this knowledge with my community, not in the form of therapy, but a casual evening of being present, story-telling, and getting to know our food, selves, and community. Join me as we do some serious nourishing of the soul!


Frequently Asked Questions

Q: Is really pitch dark? A: yes, the event is in complete darkness. You will not be able to see even your hand in front of your face.


Q: Is this workshop for couples only, or can I attend as a single. A: This workshop is for couples only who want to deepen and/or renew their connection in their intimate relationship. We may have workshops in the future that are designed to welcome singles. Get a waiting list.


Q: What if my partner doesn't want to to this seminar?  A: We find from past events that, the partner that gets 'dragged' to the course, is usually the one who gets the most out of it!


Q: Can your workshop help save my current relationship? A: We find that when couples make the time to have meaningful and impactful experiences focused solely on their love and relationship, it bonds and deepens the connection they have as well as reconnects that sweet connection when it's been dormant for a while. 


Q: Do you accommodate gluten-free and vegan diets?  Why?

A: Most of our public events are gluten-free and vegan, to be as inclusive as possible. At our private events and some of public shows we serve variable diets to meet the communities needs.


Q: What will we be doing in the dark?

A: You will be in the dark for several hours at your own private couples nest where you will share your tasters plate, feed each other in the dark.

We will however at times circle up as a group in the dark for group exercises.


Q: Is this a sex workshop?

A: No, there will not be any nudity in the dark.


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